Ways to avoid negative people

ways to avoid negative people


In life you’ll have people who support you no matter what you do. And there are people who will doubt and criticize your choices. Maybe you want to get married and your parents disagree with your choice of spouse. Or you want to move to another job and your friends think you’re making a big mistake. People can disagree with you no matter what you do.

In business, it’s the same way. Many people aren’t as lucky as I was when I first got started several years ago.   My husband and family supported me and they always believed in me. But there were distant relatives and even some very close friends who thought I made the biggest mistake when I left my six figure job.

Regardless of what you do, there will always be people who discourage you from pursuing the thing you wanted to do. Sometimes it almost seems like these people are happy to see you fail,  that they just wanted to say “I told you so“.  In reality, we should be happy for successful people. We should celebrate their success because entrepreneurs are a rare breed. They walked down the path that’s less traveled.  While most people are afraid of failure, entrepreneurs know that failures are to be celebrated. For this reason alone, I admire my fellow entrepreneurs.

Anywho, I wanted to give you several tips on how to avoid negatives:

1) Find ways to limit your contact with negative people. Obviously this isn’t going to happen if it happens to be your spouse or someone very close to you. The more my business grow the more I distant myself from people who don’t believe in my vision, because I proved them wrong in the first time but people are always looking for something to prove themselves right. 😉

Now here’s the thing, even if you’re surrounded by the most negative people in the world, you can still create a positive environment for yourself if you read, listen and watch any personal growth materials.

2) You’re your own worse enemy. Look at the person inside the mirror. The only person you need to compete with is that person that you see in the mirror everyday. People don’t believe in themselves and I often hear people who say “I hate myself”. Now listen, you must first believe in yourself and love yourself. Quit judging yourself, learn to love and respect yourself, and others will naturally be inclined to follow you.

3) This may sound like a broken record, but you have to remain optimistic and positive. Attitude is altitude. Though I want you to remember this, being positive alone will never produce result. I know people who invest in hundreds of hours of personal development but they remain broke. Why?  Just like a diamond in the rough, you need to polish yourself by taking action to bring your talents and what you’ve learned to fruition.

4) Ignore your haters and the negative people. The more you pay attention to them, the more they enjoy getting the attention they’re seeking. Their goal is to prove themselves right, they’re judging you because their mind has been shaped a certain way. If you want to succeed, you must learn how to ignore that negative noise.  The best revenge to your haters is by show them the end result, a successful person.

5) Invest in yourself. Simply put, if you’re not learning and growing you have no business. The industry is constantly evolving, there are always new things we can learn to improve ourselves and our business. The greatest leaders and businessmen/businesswomen in history are relentless in their pursuit of knowledge.

I want you to know and realize that this business comes down to three things:

– Getting traffic
– Conversion
– Personal development. “Your income can only grow to the extent that you do” – T Harv Eker (Author of Millionaire Mind). Mindset determines your outcome in your business. Hint: Average CEOs read 4-5 books a month. 

With that being said, hone up your skills, read/watch/listen to good materials that can help your business and yourself. Get productive!



Tofu Story

I was very little, but I remember this story very well, so I wanted to share it with you.

Back in my home country, we often see food stalls along the road, all over the place really. One of my late Grandfather’s cousins made tofu for a living. He was one of those guys who pushed his cart and setup the food stall every day to sell his tofu. We called him Grand Uncle Apiao.

He wasn’t the healthiest person (he moved from China to Indonesia when he was 3-4 during the World War II), he was a thin man. He was very poor but always lived his life with dignity. He refused to get help from other people because he believed that as long as he was healthy, he should be able to put food on the table for his family.  He had met great obstacles in life: his food cart being stolen, lived in poverty, had people who cheated his money and ran away. But he always came back and pushed his tofu cart daily without fail, every day, 7 days a week.

My parents often took me to visit his food stall to buy out a good amount of his tofu to give to my grandparents. Just like any other day whenever my parents bought his tofu, he often refused to accept payment. However my parents always insisted for him to accept the money in exchange for the tofu. Sometimes both sides can be so pushy, I’d watch my Grand Uncle refused to accept the money, and my parents insisted or they wouldn’t take the tofu.
One time, I saw how he had three different drawers for the cash payment (back then there was no one use credit card in my country).  He accepted the money and put the money into three different drawers. I was curious, so I went ahead and asked him why he split the money and put them into three different drawers. He smiled and looked at me:

“I split the money into three different drawers for three reasons. The first one is for my family, my children. The second one is to help others who’re much less fortunate than I am. I realize that God loves me and I’m still considerably healthy; this second one represents my gratefulness and never forget the less fortunate.  The third one, is to save and invest into better equipment so I can grow my tofu business.”

I was little (probably 4 or 5 years old) but I understood everything he mentioned.

Fast forward five years later (give or take), he had the money to build a factory from the ground up, hired employees and started living a good life. His dream came true. He lived a good life until he passed away ten years ago.

I see similarities in how I run my business now with how he ran his business back then. The only difference is our “offers“. His tofu, vs. my ‘services and digital products’. I believe hard work will pay off.  I believe in giving away a percentage of my income every month, (and it always come back tenfold) . I believe in investing into myself (education) and the right tools.

All too often, I see people who come to me and tell me that they have no money. They use the excuse of “being broke” as a hindrance, as a major block to becoming successful in life.  When I first started, I could of used the same excuse but I never allowed circumstances dictate my outcome. If you determine that you’re broke and you’re doing nothing to fix that, realize that being broke is going to cost you more in the long run. Yes, being broke is going to be expensive for you.

Make a decision to better your life regardless of your situation and circumstances. All it takes is a mindset shift. Realize that you can achieve your dream when you want it bad enough. Only when you want it bad enough you’ll do whatever it takes to reach your dream destination.


Val Geerken

Your Dreams and Your Life

Do you realize how you spend your time is going to either take you closer to your dream, or further away?

Do you have a real actionable plan and commitment to create your dream life?

If you want real freedom and success, you need to be have at least one or all of the below:

1) Have your own business
2) Invest in Real Estate
3) Invest in trading, stocks market, etc

They are the three pillars of wealth.

If you want to be wealthy, you need to look into creating your own economy.   You’ll never have to worry with what may happen with the government, your job, etc. I laugh when people say they have job security with the companies they work for. I used to work for the biggest software company in the world. Just this past week, they announced that they were laying off 18,000 people. I know two people who got impacted and they were being let go…and these guys have families with young children.

Here’s another thing to think about…

Bill Gates have said that within 20 years from now, a lot of jobs will be replaced by software automation. (Here’s the link to the article)

If you’re not worried yet, well just think about it…technology is growing rapidly. Nuff said…

Let’s face it, you’re never going to be totally secure working for someone. You’re always at the mercy of your company or your boss.

Let’s talk about running your own business online…I believe there’s a science behind everything. This includes running and managing your online business. The science in making money online is in mastering traffic and build a HUGE (email and SMS) list.  The people who’re making the most money online are the people who spend the most money. They constantly buy traffic and re-invest their profit to scale up their business.

Here’s the painful truth and it may not sit well with you, if you’re down to your very last penny and are looking to make a quick buck, this isn’t the right industry to be in.  Find something in your house to sell, do a garage sale, stick to your job and live frugally so you can save up the money for your business. You can definitely find ways to get your “seed money” to start a business. No one became successful overnight and no one became successful without sacrifice and pain.

One of my good friends maxed out all her credit cards at one point in her life. She was committed to create her own life. She didn’t want to live in poverty, and wanted take control of her own financial life. And now she’s a multi millionaire, a CEO of multiple IT companies. Perhaps one of these days you’ll see her in Forbes magazine.

So get a clear vision of your dream life, and how you’re going to get there. Start working on your inner self. Surround yourself with positive people, read books, listen to or watch motivational speakers and successful people. Even if you’re surrounded by the most negative people, you can create your own positive surroundings by doing what I mentioned. When you change, your surrounding will change.

You can’t change your past, but you can make your future. Realize that your future is a guaranteed reflection of your current actions.


Val Geerken




Why Motivation is Short Lived

In this video, I talked about the importance of finding your “ultimate fuel” and stop relying on “external motivation”.

motivation is short lived

Figure out your “Why”



Some people have a hard time figuring out their “why“. I have had people asking me this very same thing.  If you’re one of them, I have a very personal video I would like to share with you. Hopefully you can feel my emotions through the video below.

This is my BIG why. The reason I am loving what I do.

Now, it’s your turn to tell me and the whole world why you want to embark on this entrepreneurial journey.


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