Don’t let circumstances determine your outcome

The past two weeks have been quite interesting for me. Non stop challenges and my email auto responder was down for a full week. Then it went down again in the middle of a campaign last week. Because of that, I spent five hundred dollars on advertising without results because the server went down right in the middle of the campaigns.

Most people complain when they don’t see results after investing $20 in a system or a business that can potentially give them financial freedom. My $500 went down the drain but I did not get upset. 😉 Don’t get me wrong, I sighed when things like this happen, but there are things you can control and things you can’t control. But you know what I did? I laughed it off and continued to move forward.

Why am I telling you this? Because that is how life is. In business, relationship, money, family, you will be faced with non stop challenges. It comes to one thing: how you handle these situation that matters. I was a global project manager before I left my job in early 2010. I was under constant pressure to make things happen, to make sure everything was working smoothly. With that said, you can say I was once a control freak, I would literally be freaked out and stressed out when work got out of control.

I learned to let go of circumstances the hard way. I learned in business there are always going to be things beyond my control. I learned in life that things can go out of control anytime.

I learned that I had to stop letting circumstances determine my outcome.

Let that sink…


Most people live their lives with excuses and play the blame game.

It’s happening…everyday!

I see people complaining about the government, the president, the job market, etc.

Complaining won’t get you anywhere. As a matter of fact, you will continue to feel worse each day.

I attended T Harv Eker’s signature seminar last weekend (if you don’t know who he is, he is the author of best seller “Millionaire Mind” book). Every once in a while I get out and go to live events to continue to expand my horizon and connect with like minded individuals. In the seminar they taught that building a business is the only way you can save more and build a brighter future and build YOUR DREAM. There has never been a time to change your future, to become financially free than now.

People use excuses all the time. They think others are smarter or had more money when they started started.

When I started I had no clue how online marketing worked. I had no clue what I was getting into. I sucked at writing, I had no friggin idea how to write and let alone connect to my readers like I do now. I felt like I was climbing Mount Everest and could fall anytime. I took a HUGE risk!

But…I didn’t make any excuses. I learned that business is a skill. You learn it and apply it. I spent every free moment studying and learning how successful people did it. I still do now too. Do you define growing as going from childhood to teenage-hood to adulthood, and stops there? Wrong! Here’s the thing, the moment you stop growing, you’re dying inside.

If your desire to WIN is big enough you will figure out a way to make your dream come true.

I fully believe everyone can change their future when they make a decision to do whatever it takes

Do you know that there are 2 “R’s” you can have in this life?  You cannot have both though. Would you like to know what those Rs are?



Personal Growth and Your Business

In the past few years, I have been working with small business owners and with people who want to start a business. One of the most common problems I see is that people do not have faith or a belief system in place. Don’t confuse faith with religion here, the faith I am talking about has nothing to do with religion.

I have seen time and time again that people who failed in their business did not do so because they were not smart enough, but it was because they did not strong enough faith that they could success.  I am often speechless when people say things like “it is okay for others to be successful, I don’t have what they have”.   Most people don’t realize that all it takes to be successful is to get started. You don’t need to know how to code, you don’t need to know how to design webpages, you won’t always know how to connect the dots right away. Heck, there are many things I still don’t know how to do but I strive to figure it out. You will stumble along the way, but if you have faith in yourself, you will figure out how to run a successful business. 

Personal Growth and Your Business

Today, I want to talk about why personal growth and your business go hand in hand.  

If you think personal growth and your business has nothing to do with each other, think again. Many companies hire personal growth or peak performance coaches to produce better results. It is more common than you think now, and you may be wondering why. Often times companies, owners,  and entrepreneurs hit a plateau and cannot get growing as they did before. The reason behind this is a lack of personal growth. 

This plateau could be caused by various reasons. Fear of taking the next step, fear of taking a big risk, not knowing what to do next, or being too comfortable with their current status. What is the number one rule to success? It is to step out of your comfort zone , and constantly be stretching yourself beyond your “limits”. The problem is we cannot always see the blind spot. After all, it is called a “blind spot” for a reason. 

Personal Growth and Your Business Matter

If you ever hit a plateau in your business. Consider hiring a coach. Working with someone or a peak performance coach can help you move past your obstacles. Sometimes, all you need is for them to show you what needs to be done to move past the current problems with your business. Whether you believe it or not at this point, personal growth and your business are tied together.  Think about this…

  • You cannot start a business without a belief system. It is far too easy for people get in a habit of being self defeating. In fact, many people do this without realizing it. 
  • Your belief system is tied with your personal growth. 
  • You cannot grow your business without investing into yourself: a.k.a again, the personal growth. “Your income can only grow to the extent you do – T Harv”

You must recognize and understand that your beliefs contribute to your success. In order to fully believe in yourself, you must work from the inside and dream even bigger. Your dream can turn into a reality when you believe in yourself. 


Consider this, “if people are not laughing at your dream, your dream is not big enough – Grayson Marshall”

You must first acknowledge that your business is already growing. Then you need to envision how your life will change with that. 
Make personal growth as part of your life and your business, consciously and subconcsiously. When you realize how important this is to your overall being and your success, you will direct all your thoughts, energy and full focus to make things happen. Personal growth and your business are tied together. Make a goal to make it part of your daily routines.

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Short term pain and sacrifices for long term happiness

I want to share something with you here. This is important especially if you’re just starting out.

The key to building a real business online, to start generating income and make a great living from here is by stretching yourself outside of your comfort zone, every SINGLE DAY.

If you’re staying “comfortable” you are not moving forward to reaching your goal. Cut your shiny object syndrome. There’s no overnight riches. EVERY single person who’re successful out there, they made their way up by struggling and failing over and over again.

I’m not here to discourage you, I’m here to tell you to toughen up. You want $500 extra a month? $2k extra a month? 5k? 10k? That kind of money is already there waiting for you to make it a reality.

You may say “Val, you’re just bs’ing me” 😉  I am not, I’ve been around the block, I’ve had my ups and downs, failures, and I came back strong each time because of my work ethics, because I’m willing to do what others don’t want to do (not in a bad way though!). I have a rambunctious little girl who’re around me most of the time, but I made a full commitment that my business is like my other child that requires my attention and my effort.

This is the truth. As soon as your mindset changes, you stretch yourself, you get out of your comfort zone by doing what you haven’t done before, you’re already paving your own path to success.

When you run your own business, you work a lot harder because once you see the vision, you know the rewards are MUCH bigger. You deserve better and bigger in life.

Some people just want to make a little bit extra, that’s perfectly fine. But if you really want to make a comfortable living, giving your family and spouse, your children the best life, you MUST start getting uncomfortable.

Let me explain what I mean by “getting uncomfortable” exactly. You want to start a business, you don’t know where to start, that’s fine, we show you exactly what you need to do. The truth of the matter is you don’t need a gazillion ebooks, videos, tutorials, because all these don’t matter if you don’t implement them. You may be wondering why you’re not getting results. Because you’re being pulled into ten different directions and not knowing who to listen to. Let me ask you, what makes you think your situation is going to be different by Christmas this year if you don’t make appropriate changes?

What you need is work directly with mentors who show you exactly a real proven system.

Most people think they’re already working hard, but they’re not. When they come home they can still watch TV, or go out partying, wasting time at the sport bars, or pubs, or put every excuses possible out there. This is what I call, they want the millionaire lifestyle but they have a $7/hour work ethic. They don’t want it bad enough.

You know what I do?

I am constantly busy and productive, in fact I’m making it a goal to scare myself daily now to get more done :)

I don’t have time to sit around watch news, gossiping, or wondering things like “What if this doesn’t work?”.  I’m too busy failing forward by figuring out what does and doesn’t work.

My daughter taught me things that I never thought of before. When she learned to walk, I watched her fell and she’d get back up over and over again. Until it came the day when she walked without falling. And then she started running and falling again. And finally came the day when she started running without falling…

We all went through this phase as a child. We can repeat that as an adult to do whatever we want to achieve.

That’s the same attitude you must have to generate BIG MONEY online. One failure doesn’t define anything, not even two or three!!! You know how many times Colonel Sanders was rejected before his recipe got accepted and he became famous with Kentucky Fried Chicken? 1000 times.

You were meant to be someone great.

You were meant to be your own boss.

Create your own path and give yourself unlimited raises 😉

Short term pain and sacrifices for long term happiness. That’s your success recipe.



What you really need to be successful

If you are on many marketers’ email newsletter lists, you are probably used to seeing them asking you to buy product after product on a consistent basis.

You would see all these emails from them asking you to buy “the latest and greatest product that can make you $$$$$$$“, yet more than 90% of the time you would only end up being disappointed and frustrated with little to no results.

With that being said, I want to talk to you about what you really need to be successful in this industry.

I remember when I first started in 2007, I listened to people who looked like they were making serious money online. I trusted that they had my best interests in mind, and I thought they knew what they were doing to help me start generating income online.

But boy…I was dead wrong…it did not take long for me to be overwhelmed!  I have had unethical marketers who screwed me in this business.
I failed many times, over and over again. It was sickening.

I am going to tell you as it is now.  It is easy for you to get lost in this industry. This industry is like the big ocean, and you can be bitten at any time by those sharks surrounding you.

I was ready to quit when I became overwhelmed with the vast amount of information out there.

And because I had a high salary job, I always took it for granted and thought of my job as a “cushion“. The worse part was I had the “what if my business didn’t work” mentality. That was one big mistake because I did not take my business seriously.

If you are feeling overwhelmed and tired of all the empty promises and hypes now, I understand and I can fully relate to you because I was once in your shoes.

When my husband and I decided to have a child, we came to a point where we talked about the need for me to stay home and be available for our child. Both our mothers were always there for us. In fact, I had the best childhood because my Mother was always there for me. That was the reason I wanted to do the same for our child.

You see, I always thought that women would have to make sacrifices, to go one way or the other. The thought of leaving my job was scary to me!  After all I worked for the biggest software company and had a great career.  Many people thought I was stupid to leave my job.

What was scary to me at the time turned out to be one of the best decisions I have ever made. I left my high salary job in 2010, and made up my mind to make my business work.

My daughter was the absolute turning point. She was the reason that my life changed completely. Ever heard the saying that you’re your own biggest enemy? This statement is pure truth. I embarked on a journey to conquer myself.  “The first and best victory is to conquer self” – Plato

I stopped competing with other marketers. I worked on myself harder and became laser focused on taking action, not results. I started thinking in ways I never would thought possible before.

Let me tell you, I loved to shop before (what girls don’t like to shop!).

I would not think twice about buying that new pair of $300 boots. Now, I think twice about buying anything non business related. Not because I cannot afford what I wanted, but because my passion and thoughts have changed completely. I would ask myself this simple question “do I need this or do I want this?”

And now, I don’t think twice about investing into traffic and tools that can help my business grow. It is pure entrepreneur mindset right here.

I am amazed at how much I could do after just being laser focused in one year. I saw what was possible in this industry, and constant steady income started flowing to my bank account.

So here are the important key takeaway from all these…the bottom line of what you really need to be successful in this industry.

1) Focus on one business. Do your research and stick with one plan for six months. Give it your all and do not think of the profit or the money (this one is hard but if you can disconnect money from building a business, you will be golden).  I am all about multiple streams of income, but for your own benefit, do not branch out into another business until you see results.

2) Only buy tools or traffic, things that actually will help your business.

3) Do not be afraid of failure. There is no perfect action, but realize that any action you take today bring you that much closer to your goal.

4) Establish a series of tasks for your business. Consistency is key.

5) Help others. People will love you and believe equally in what you do.

6) Do not spam others and follow what the majority of Internet Marketers do.

7) Find a mentor, who actually have their best interests in you to succeed. Do what they have to say, do not question anything. It is either you work with someone who are up there already and give you their full blueprint to success, or you continue to struggle for many years to come.

Finally, surround yourself with like minded entrepreneurs and leaders who actually want to see you succeed.

Consistency is Key

Consistency is Key




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