Ways to avoid negative people

ways to avoid negative people

 

In life you’ll have people who support you no matter what you do. And there are people who will doubt and criticize your choices. Maybe you want to get married and your parents disagree with your choice of spouse. Or you want to move to another job and your friends think you’re making a big mistake. People can disagree with you no matter what you do.

In business, it’s the same way. Many people aren’t as lucky as I was when I first got started several years ago.   My husband and family supported me and they always believed in me. But there were distant relatives and even some very close friends who thought I made the biggest mistake when I left my six figure job.

Regardless of what you do, there will always be people who discourage you from pursuing the thing you wanted to do. Sometimes it almost seems like these people are happy to see you fail,  that they just wanted to say “I told you so“.  In reality, we should be happy for successful people. We should celebrate their success because entrepreneurs are a rare breed. They walked down the path that’s less traveled.  While most people are afraid of failure, entrepreneurs know that failures are to be celebrated. For this reason alone, I admire my fellow entrepreneurs.

Anywho, I wanted to give you several tips on how to avoid negatives:

1) Find ways to limit your contact with negative people. Obviously this isn’t going to happen if it happens to be your spouse or someone very close to you. The more my business grow the more I distant myself from people who don’t believe in my vision, because I proved them wrong in the first time but people are always looking for something to prove themselves right. 😉

Now here’s the thing, even if you’re surrounded by the most negative people in the world, you can still create a positive environment for yourself if you read, listen and watch any personal growth materials.

2) You’re your own worse enemy. Look at the person inside the mirror. The only person you need to compete with is that person that you see in the mirror everyday. People don’t believe in themselves and I often hear people who say “I hate myself”. Now listen, you must first believe in yourself and love yourself. Quit judging yourself, learn to love and respect yourself, and others will naturally be inclined to follow you.

3) This may sound like a broken record, but you have to remain optimistic and positive. Attitude is altitude. Though I want you to remember this, being positive alone will never produce result. I know people who invest in hundreds of hours of personal development but they remain broke. Why?  Just like a diamond in the rough, you need to polish yourself by taking action to bring your talents and what you’ve learned to fruition.

4) Ignore your haters and the negative people. The more you pay attention to them, the more they enjoy getting the attention they’re seeking. Their goal is to prove themselves right, they’re judging you because their mind has been shaped a certain way. If you want to succeed, you must learn how to ignore that negative noise.  The best revenge to your haters is by show them the end result, a successful person.

5) Invest in yourself. Simply put, if you’re not learning and growing you have no business. The industry is constantly evolving, there are always new things we can learn to improve ourselves and our business. The greatest leaders and businessmen/businesswomen in history are relentless in their pursuit of knowledge.

I want you to know and realize that this business comes down to three things:

– Getting traffic
– Conversion
– Personal development. “Your income can only grow to the extent that you do” – T Harv Eker (Author of Millionaire Mind). Mindset determines your outcome in your business. Hint: Average CEOs read 4-5 books a month. 

With that being said, hone up your skills, read/watch/listen to good materials that can help your business and yourself. Get productive!

 

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Success Recipe

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How many times have you thought of this “I want to make money but nothing is working!” since you jumped onto the Internet Marketing space? Maybe you wanted to start a home based business or an online business but nothing is working.

You have a BIG dream, but you’re not getting anywhere.

Let me ask you a few questions…

1) Can you describe exactly how you want your life to look like 5 years from now?

2) Are you making use of your precious time every day to work towards your goal?

What would your answers be?

Most of the time, people have clear dreams and can describe what they want in life but they don’t have the focus and clarity in converting the dreams to becoming a reality. People get so busy and involved in their day job and day-to-day activities that they fail to make the time for the success they desire. They fail to bring their dreams to reality because they don’t want it bad enough.

Think about it.

Until you come up with a solid written plan of exactly how you’re going from point A to point B, you will go around in circles without result. Here’s the cold hard truth, you don’t have time when it comes to business. Money doesn’t wait for you. People think they have time, and that’s a terrible mistake. Don’t wait for the “perfect” time because it’s never going to come. Once you have a written plan, it’s all about execution. And to execute, you need absolute focus.

Allow me to talk more about focus here, because it kills me when I see people wasting their time and money jumping from one program to another without result. I want to be the person who makes it simple for you. If you’ve been failing in one program or biz op, you’ll continue to fail until you decide not to fail any longer. You may be saying, “that’s ridiculous Val, no one wants to fail, why would I want to fail?”  As ridiculous as that may sound, that’s the problem with most people who gets into this industry. They don’t want to fail but their action says the opposite.  They take this industry like a gambling scene. They may have better luck going to casino burning their money than biz op hopping. People ask me what’s my secret, my secret is FOCUS.

Focus means LESS in everything:

1) Buying program or attempting to “absorb” more information that get you down the “information overload” path, and most likely collecting digital dusts on your computer
2) Quit your instant messenger and chit chatting with other people
3) Stop checking your emails every 5 minutes and here’s an important one too: stop reading the news every hour.
4) Quit playing games
5) If you know who’s doing what on your Facebook network every minute of everyday, you’re not being productive
6) TV … on average Americans spend 36 hours a week watching TV. Imagine how much time is wasted. If people are using half of those hours to do something productive, imagine what kind of result they’d get with their business.

Instead you want to focus on MORE doing. Implement everything you learn immediately – just do it. If you put it off, you’re not going to do it.

 

Let me give you an example here:

Day 1 – I’m super pumped to get started with a brand new program. I watched one hour of the getting started video, then I decided to take a 30 minutes break. Then my favorite show on TV was up, I thought I should just watch the TV first and get back to the program later. A few hours later, I got tired and my brain told me I should sleep.

End of Day 1 – One hour of getting started video watched – 0 hours put into business

Day 2 – I got on the computer and started the day by reading some news.  And then I thought, maybe I should write my first blog post. But then something else came to mind – I thought maybe I should post on my Facebook wall first. Then another thing popped up and I thought, “let’s do a video”. But then…Eh, I wasn’t feeling it; maybe I should of gone back to watching the entire new program I just bought.

End of Day 2 – still nothing accomplished – 0 hours put into business.

Day 3 – I had all the motivation in the world on this day and decided to learn the program. But then  “ahh…this is so complicated!”

End of Day 3 – I was already bothered by the fact I’d have to put a lot of hours into this business program. 

End of Day 3 – Still 0 hours put into business

Day 4 – I started to get bored with this program.  Could there be something else out that’s easier?

End of Day 4 – Started to feel like this program wasn’t the right one for me.  Going to look for something else.

Four days passed, still nothing accomplished. You’ve already wasted your time and money.

This is how people generally treat their business in this industry. This is why people aren’t getting anything done with their business, and come up with a million excuses why they’re failing.

Do you see how the illustration above get your mind cluttered fast? You have no clarity; as a result you have no output.  When your mind is cluttered, you can’t be focused. You have no sense of direction and you’re often confused of what action you should be taking.

This is why you need absolute focus.

When you’re being laser focused, your mind is shaped to get the best end result.

Stop looking for the NBT (next best thing). Pick the business that you like, work with a mentor that you resonate with, and connect with other entrepreneurs.  Stick to that same program for six months while being laser focused.

That’s your success recipe.

 

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